Episode 121: How Asking Empowering Questions Can Change Your Writing and your Life! (Part 1) with Carol Boston

May 17, 2022

In this episode, Carol Boston, the Queen of Reframe, shares how to ask the right questions to get the right answers, whether you need them for writing a book, building a business, or solving something in your personal life. You’ll discover actionable tips to crack open the universe and discover possibilities you’ve never considered that will transform your life!

Resources mentioned

Is there a challenge you’d like to overcome?
You can book a complimentary Clarity-to-Cash call with Carol here.
And you can click here to purchase a copy of Carol’s book, “Women Who Boss Up in Health, Wealth & Lifestyle.”

Carol Boston will also be offering a FREE workshop on June 7th, 11 am EDT
and a second one on June 16th at 3 pm EDT.
I will have the sign-up link on Wednesday, May 25th on this page.

Or, you can reach out to her at:






From Ellen Violette
Rockstar Authors Tool Kit
Free resources for writing, publishing and marketing your book
Bestseller Breakthrough Consultation
If you want to go deeper or get started with your book project.
Contact Ellen:


In the first of a two-part conversation with transformational, leadership coach Carol Boston, we experience firsthand why she’s been dubbed the Queen of the Reframe. It’s all about asking the questions on this episode of The Books Open Door® Podcast!

Carol describes her coaching philosophy, including an emphasis on calming heightened emotion (which correlates negatively with intelligence) and achieving clarity through disciplined inquiry. She says, “Oftentimes, we don’t know how to ask the right questions to get the answers that we want,” which is why clients walk with Carol through a mindset shift based on foundational questions that are time-bound and specific.

We all have the answers — and magic — inside. But, says Carol, access depends on changing our language, dismissing assumptions and releasing attachment to outcomes. When we are brave enough to lift the lid off our individual jars, those containers of creativity and information we all hold within, amazing insights ensue based on a deep inner. As Voltaire once said, “Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.” You’ll learn in this episode exactly why your personal, professional and financial power are determined not by what you know but what you’re willing to delve into and explore!

Key Quotes:

 “Writing a book is no different than being any other kind of an expert in the sense that you have to ask the right questions to get the right answers.” (Ellen)

“Oftentimes we don’t know how to ask the right questions to get the answers that we want.”

“Empowering questions cause you to ponder. They increase your awareness.”

“When you put (questions) out there, you’re saying you’re open to hearing, seeing, saying or doing something I’ve never thought of before.”

“You have every answer you need inside of you already. You just don’t know how to ask the right questions to get the answers.”

“An empowering question never, ever, ever starts with the word why. ‘Why’ brings in defensiveness, which brings in the ego, which brings in emotions.”

“When emotions go up, intelligence goes down. It’s true for every human being.”

Key Takeaways

  • What else is possible today? Powerful questions and their caveats:
    • Specific
    • Time-bound
    • You cannot be attached to the outcome.
    • Your job is not to figure them out.
  • About “aha” moments and creating them with these specific, time-bound questions:
    • Who?
    • What?
    • How?
    • (And sometimes) where?
  • When you put the right questions out into the universe, you are expressing openness and a readiness to receive wisdom.
  • Empowered questions never start with the word “why,” which inevitably prompts:
    • Defensiveness
    • Ego
    • Heightened emotion
  • About strategies for taking emotion out of conversations – and elevating intelligence accordingly!
  • Being Intentional: How we do anything is how we do everything!

Please don’t forget to subscribe, share, rate and review this podcast, past episodes of which are available here.

About Ellen Violette

Ellen is a multiple #1 bestselling author, award-winning book and business coach, host of the Books Open Doors® Podcast, CEO of Create a Splash/ Books Open Doors™ Author Services, and a Grammy-nominated songwriter. She works with high-achieving trainers, coaches, founders, and speakers, who want to write, publish, launch a book to #1 bestseller, and use their book to RISE to the top of their niche!  Her company also offers book marketing support. Her mission is to make the world a better place, one book at a time helping experts get more credibility, make a bigger impact, open doors to unlimited opportunities, make more money and leave a lasting legacy.

Follow Ellen and Books Open Doors:


To share your thoughts, please comment below.
If you got value from it, we’d appreciate it if you share this show on social media!
Also, leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.
Subscribe on iTunes.Please don’t forget to subscribe, share, rate and review this podcast, past episodes of which are available 



Learn More

About the Author

Ellen Violette

Ellen is an 3X award-winning book, including being named one of the Top 20 Book Coaches of 2022 by Coach Foundation. She's also a multiple #1 bestselling author, a 3-time eLit award winner, podcast host, and a Grammy-nominated songwriter. She has been helping entrepreneurs increase their credibility and expert status, become #1 bestselling authors, and make a bigger impact in the world since 2004. Her mission is to make the world a better place one author and one book at a time!



Recent Posts

Episode 138: Afformations and Power Habits with Noah St.John

In this episode. New York Times Bestselling Author, Noah St. John, shares how he developed Afformations®, why they work, how they work, and how you can use them to develop power habits and start living the life you want! He has written 17books, made over 2.7 billion...