Episode 122: How Asking Empowering Questions can Change Your Writing and Your Life! Part 2 with Carol Boston

May 24, 2022

In Part 2 of this 2-part series, Carol Boston, The Reframe Queen, shares what questions to ask to make more sales and the power of a book, as well as how the wrong questions can change the course of your life, what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to grow up healthy, how to improve your relationships, and more!  It’s ALL in the questions you ask and she’ll share exactly what to ask!

Resources Mentioned

Carol Boston will be offering a FREE workshop on
June 7th, 11 am EDT and the second will be June 16th at 3 pm EDT.
I will have the sign-up link on Wednesday, May 25th on this page.

Or reach out to Carol at: carol@carolboston.com






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Are old narratives pre-determining or limiting your career goals?

On this episode of  The Books Open Doors™ Podcast,  career coach, Carol Boston, The Queen of Reframe,  shares how to redirect your thoughts that do not serve you. Her twenty-six years in sales yielded an incredible trove of insights into what it means to connect and actually close a deal – and she is sharing them on this podcast!

This conversation highlights why the ability to connect emotionally with clients is so important and equally why it’s empowering to identify and set boundaries with those who are holding us back. She also shares the tough questions about how we hide from some of our personal challenges – often rooted in traumatic childhood memories. Were you not supported and served? Carol has tools to respond!

Whether you’re in sales or pursuing a career in fashion, marketing, sales or any other discipline, connecting is everything and requires self-knowledge. That’s why what Carol offers is so important to healing old wounds and moving forward with confidence. You have the power! Just take the next step into your entrepreneurial power.

Key Quotes

 “Oftentimes, we get the results we don’t want because of a lack of personal leadership. We want to blame things outside of us. And as soon as we do that, we give up our power.”

“We don’t always like how we’re being. And we have to ask ourselves, ‘Who am I being in my business today? In my relationship today?’ ”

“(In sales) they aren’t saying no to you. They are saying no to whatever you’re presenting and most often when they say no it’s an indication that you haven’t shown enough value.”

“If you know it’s something outrageous that you’re not going to put in your program, you are still trying to get information. Ask again! Oh my goodness! What curiosity will do for you!”

Key Takeaways

  • The stories we tell ourselves affect our entire lives. Did messages you received from your parents engender your inner workaholic? Are you never perfect enough?
  • Reframing Our Childhood: We don’t have to be reactive to negative messages or standards that don’t define us.
  • Want to get right with yourself? Ask this question every day: Who am I being behind closed doors, when no one else is watching?
  • Challenge your way of being! What are the questions you could be asking, such as:
    • What am I not doing to elevate my partner?
    • How can I show up authentically?
  • We are all selling ourselves every day. Carol is about teaching the art of influence!
  • If someone says no to you, whether you’re offering a good or service or advancing a personal/family agenda: go to a place of curiosity!
  • When you’re in front of a client, sales depend on understanding what kind of learner they are: auditory or kinesthetic. Learn what your client’s dominant language is and then craft your pitch accordingly!
  • If you don’t know what language will penetrate with clients, ask! Don’t be afraid!
  • Take the words “should” and “shouldn’t” out of your vocabulary. They are all about making you feel wrong.

About Ellen:

Ellen is a multiple #1 bestselling author, 3X award-winning book and business coach, host of the The Books Open Doors® Podcast, CEO of Create a Splash/Books Open Doors® Author Services and Grammy-nominated songwriter. She works with high-achieving trainers, coaches, founders and speakers who want to write, publish, launch a book to #1 bestseller and use their book to RISE to the top of their niche! Her company also offers book marketing support. Her mission is to make the world a better place, one book at a time by helping experts get more credibility, make a bigger impact, open doors to unlimited opportunities, make more money and leave a lasting legacy.

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Ellen is an 3X award-winning book, including being named one of the Top 20 Book Coaches of 2022 by Coach Foundation. She's also a multiple #1 bestselling author, a 3-time eLit award winner, podcast host, and a Grammy-nominated songwriter. She has been helping entrepreneurs increase their credibility and expert status, become #1 bestselling authors, and make a bigger impact in the world since 2004. Her mission is to make the world a better place one author and one book at a time!



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